Between all the movies, songs, culture, and pop stars, everyone is convinced that there is some special “soul mate” out there somewhere that will fill all the empty spots in their lives and that it is impossible to be happy without them.
All the songs sing about “i just can’t live without you”and all that rot.
The truth is, a relationship cannot be based on need.
If you find yourself saying “I need this person to be happy”, that is not love, it is co-dependency.
A relationship has to be based on what we can give into it
If both people are expecting the other person to make them happy, then they are both taking from the relationship and constantly tearing it down.
A relationship can only be built when both people are giving something into it.